If you and your partner are kinky or even just curious about implementing something kinky into your bedroom, you can combine pegging with any number of kinks. It’s a choose your own adventure kind of delight but an adventure you should discuss beforehand - more like planning a trip, then.
As a reminder for all responsible BDSM practices, both of you should chat and agree on what you feel comfortable and happy to explore during pegging - before engaging in the activity. Do not just spring one of these on your partner during sex.
Kinks that pair well with pegging
Bondage
Probably your best friend. It can be lots of fun to be restrained while taking your partner’s strap-on. You have the option to choose between various fun pieces of equipment, such as ropes, cuffs, bondage tape, spreader bars and more.
One thing to consider is how to adjust during the pegging if your hands/arms are restrained. If you, the peggee, are put face-down with their arms restrained behind you, then you might find a lot of pressure put on your neck/shoulders which you can’t adjust - meaning it’s crucial to have good communication so the pegger can adjust your positions to ensure you’re comfortable.
Impact play
If the peggee has a wee masochistic streak, then there’s a good chance that they might enjoy impact play as well. This phrase is a blanket term for spanking, flogging, caning and other similar terms. Of course, I recommend that you start out with some light hand spanking on the buttcheeks. If both of you find that enjoyable, and you’ve agreed to it beforehand, then you might be able to progress up to paddles or floggers.
Sissification
Sissification is a kink centred around submission, gender roles, where a submissive male expresses an exaggeratedly ‘feminine’ role by way of, for example, cross-dressing. Sissification, because of this focus on flipping traditional ideas of gender roles, might also include a degree of erotic humiliation surrounding the aspect of emasculation.
For clarity, sissification is a kink, and is not to be confused with being transgender, even though it can sometimes be presented that way, and/or misinterpreted online. Though some trans people may enjoy sissification as a kink, we should avoid conflating gender identity with a gender-centric kink.
If you are interested in exploring some erotic humiliation (which you might couple with cock worship or small penis humiliation as mentioned below), you could call the peggee a “good girl” if they agree to that or lock them in a pink cock cage.
Cock servicing/worship
Many receivers interested in pegging may also find the idea of servicing or worshipping a penis to be a tantalizing fantasy. Why not feature these desires in your pegging scene?
Whilst you might not want another person in the room during your pegging performances, why not bring another sex toy into the play? You could stick a dildo with a suction cup on a mirror in front of the peggee/submissive for them to suck on while they’re getting penetrated or incorporate some dirty talk telling them how good they look sucking a cock whilst taking yours.
CFNM (clothed female, naked male)
This kink is pretty self-explanatory - the woman is clothed while the man is completely naked, emphasizing power play and leaning into a D/s dynamic. When the submissive is naked, it adds to a sense of vulnerability and reinforces that they’re at the Dominant’s beck and call. Something simple, free, and surprisingly effective.
SPH (small penis humiliation)
Sometimes humiliation is the name of the game, if you’re both up for that. This kink feeds into the submission/emasculation thrill for the peggee. The person’s penis doesn’t necessarily need to be small either! The dominant can compare their strap-on’s size to the size of their submissive partner’s dick (caged or dangling free), then tell them how useless they are in bed. Listen out for their helpless and pathetic moans. Bliss!
While these are some of the more popular kinks that people tend to combine with pegging, there is another one that deserves its own section. And yes, you’ve guessed it - it’s chastity!
Pegging and Chastity
But of all the kinks and forms of BDSM play that you can put with pegging, it should come as no surprise to our readers that our favourite pegging-compatible kink is chastity. It’s sort of our raison d’etre.
As many of you know, one of the main reasons people engage in chastity play is the power exchange, where one person surrenders their ‘power’ to another. In chastity scenes and activities, the surrendering of power is physically manifested by the chastity cage and the hand-off of the keys; the cage wearer is giving control of their anatomy and orgasms to their keyholder.
Pegging, in which the peggee surrenders power to their partner by allowing themselves to be penetrated, finds a very agreeable overlap with chastity. Not only is the chastity cage wearer surrendering the control over their penis, but they are also submitting to the vulnerability of being penetrated – not to mention, giving the pegger a new and exciting way to control their orgasms.
Some folks testify that pegging feels better when they’re locked in a chastity cage for two reasons. First, being unable to masturbate because of the cage for a couple of days or a week makes the orgasm from pegging even more intense. Coupled with some tease and denial or edging, this can enhance the experience further.
Try it. See how your sub feels after a week denying him an orgasm and tell me that they’re not a grovelling mess at your feet begging to take your cock. That’s a fully fledged Mistress K recommendation.
And then there’s the joy of the hands-free orgasm. While getting pegged, many people can be tempted to stroke their dick or have their partner do the stroking. Not with a chastity cage! And when the peggee discards their dick completely, the mindset shifts to focus not just on the cock, but the full body sensations of pleasure, including the feeling of having the prostate stimulated.
If you're interested in trying out chastity with pegging, we've already got a post of our favorite cages that work well with pegging. You're welcome.
Who wears the cage and who wears the strap?
While in chastity relationships, the locked up partner is typically the one receiving the pegging. However, this is the modern age, and roles are always flexible. You could change the roles up and have the caged partner also be the pegger.
The pegger might have issues with their erections, the size of their penis could be the barrier (either too big or too small), or their peggee might want to use a dildo that isn’t entirely phallic (for example something ridged or unusually shaped.). Or perhaps there’s a power aspect you both enjoy, where the pegger is teased by the sensation of thrusting and seeing their partner penetrated, without being able to actually receive any stimulus to their cock.
Can you really orgasm hands-free through pegging?
Some people can indeed orgasm through prostate stimulation but it’s not a guarantee - it doesn’t always happen for Slave D and I as well, so nothing to be ashamed of. But if you do want to ensure both partners get off (we believe in orgasm equality in this House), then why not try this suggestion out. Consider throwing a vibrator on your bed before you begin. Holding it against the cage as you thrust into them can encourage some very explosive orgasms.
But when a prostate orgasm does happen… well, I’ll let slave D speak to that:
“The best orgasm I’ve ever had was through pegging. Mistress K edged me for a week, then we had a pegging session. She removed my chastity cage once a day for an hour of teasing, denial and edging, then locked my cock back in the cage. I can’t describe how pent-up I was by the end of the week, and the sex was incredible.”
“Initially, having my prostate stimulated through pegging was quite odd. For me, it feels like butterflies in my stomach, which increase in intensity. Once I reached the orgasm, it was mind-blowing! Mistress K kept me caged throughout and I can’t recommend it enough.”
What a recommendation. He shall have to be rewarded for that.
Up next: Aftercare and final thoughts.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Mistress K
Mistress K (she/her) is a queer kinky woman and in a long-term chastity-led relationship with Slave D, the other half of the dynamic duo who run House of Denial.
Thoughtfully dedicated to consent-led BDSM practices and interactions, Mistress K supports our community via our customer service channels (does that make her a service top domme?) by engaging with anyone interested, enthusiastic or curious about chastity.
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