Hello again my filthy friends, I have missed you all. Today, get yourself comfortable and let’s discuss today’s product - a Cherry Red Jaguar Harness from Aslan Leather. As you might have seen from our other reviews and from our photography - we’re obviously quite keen on strap-ons and dildos and pegging. Shocking, I know. Entirely new information being communicated here.
When it comes to pegging men, over the last few years, I’ve gone from seeing very little strap-on porn online to seeing a wealth of videos, clips and images! As the years have gone on, there has been a very welcome change towards men experiencing anal pleasure.
It seems to be that there is an undercurrent of thinking that if anything comes near the arsehole of a man, that it’s gay and that if you, as a man, happen to enjoy that then you must be “secretly gay.”
Firstly, if you think that, you need to get with the times my pal! It’s homophobic and biphobic to think that only someone who identifies as gay can enjoy anal pleasure (bi men exist, I promise you they do) and secondly - pleasure is pleasure. And one of the most intense pleasure spots you can stimulate on a male is through the prostate. Now, (imagine me adjusting my teacher glasses and pointing at a whiteboard), as I’m sure you’ve heard - the easiest way to a man’s prostate is via his anus.
If you’re someone who has never experimented with anal play but you’re interested in exploring strap-on play or pegging, then I applaud you! Mistress K’s first tip would be my emphatic and whole-hearted recommendation that you explore your body and get to know what stimulates you.
An unfortunate side-effect of having access to so much arousal via porn is that it can serve to remove a lot of connection to our bodies. So we may know how to get ourselves off but when asked where we liked to be touched, a lot of the time we come up blank. Especially for those of you born and identifying as male - so much weight is given to the cock and balls! Now don’t get me wrong, they are pretty great but being a company that specialises in chastity - we know there is so much more pleasure than can be felt with your genitals locked away. It allows you the freedom to inhabit your body in a more meaningful way when that immediate point of fixation is taken away.
Pegging is pretty great
So you want to start on your journey to pegging but haven’t really done any kind of anal play before. Don’t worry! We’re writing a full guide for you to refer to, but let’s get you started with a few tips here and now, shall we? We advise that you start small and slow so you can move onto full strap on play. Buy a small butt plug, wash yourself thoroughly and ensure your fingernails aren’t ragged (this is Very Important. If you do have ripped/sharp fingernails, you will know about it very quickly plus you risk infections and just - it’s a whole thing. File your fingernails!!) Now comes the fun bit - the insertion of the toy! Start nice and slow plus insert it with lots of lube. Honestly, more lube than you would imagine - as the anus isn’t self-lubricating like a vagina is, you need to compensate for that. It might feel a little strange the first time you do it, which is typical. Once you’ve got the plug or the toy inserted, this is absolutely the time to explore. Change positions, move it, touch yourself whilst rocking on it - learn what you do enjoy and what you don’t. Maybe you don’t enjoy it at all - that’s fair and now you know because you’ve taken the time to learn. Well done to you, indeed.
If you do find that you really enjoy anal play and you want to explore it further, then that’s when pegging and strap on play really come into their own. Part of the pleasure of strap on play is that anyone can enjoy it - it’s not just for heterosexual couples looking to explore pegging! Non-binary people may use a strap on to penetrate their partner, queer or sapphic women might feature it in their sex life with their female partners, submissive men may want to wear a harness to penetrate their Dominant whilst being locked in chastity - the options and combinations are endless, those are just a scant handful of scenarios that we are personally aware of.
So what happens if you want to explore strap-on sex or pegging with a partner and want to find the necessary tools for the action? Then you’ll probably find yourself in search of a harness and dildos for the extremely fun task at hand. With dildos - we can recommend Godemiche’s wide variety (and you can read our review of their products here) but what about harnesses? What do you attach your peg to? Fear not, Mistress K is here to provide some recommendations and as I said right at the start of this post, today I’m reviewing an Aslan Leather harness.
The Aslan Leather Harness
Leather harnesses are the most common style of strap on harnesses - and the kind you’ve probably seen most commonly in femdom porn. There are other options out there - we wrote a review for the very femme harnesses offered by OffTheTongue which you'll be able to read soon - but sometimes a classic is a classic for a reason.
Obviously there are a few different types of harnesses - ones styled like underwear, corset styled harnesses and two/three strap designs. When it comes to leather harnesses, you’ll commonly see the two or three strap designs followed by corset styled ones. Most leather harnesses have adjustable buckles and straps to ensure they provide an accurate and comfortable fit to their wearer which is essential for any kind of strap on play. There is nothing more frustrating than having to stop right in the middle of the really great rhythm you’re building up, your partner is making all these right noises but you’ve got to re-tighten a leg strap or the waist strap because you’re being punched in the mons by your dildo. Do not recommend.
Luckily, we’re reviewing one of the most well known harness brands on the market - Aslan Leather. Aslan Leather is owned by Carey Gray who started making their own harnesses back in 1991 - so has nearly 30 years experience in making bondage wear and dildo harnesses. When I started attending fetish events, so many people sung the praises of the Aslan brand that I knew we’d have to try them out for ourselves. Slave D and I have had a few different harnesses over the years and they’ve been fine - we had minor complaints at the time but they just seemed like what you would expect from the lower priced end of harnesses. And then we bought an Aslan harness and realised what all the fuss was about.
We bought from a popular sex toy website based in the UK and selected the Aslan Cherry Red Jaguar Harness. This has a convertible design so you can wear it either G-string style or Jock-strap style - my preference leans to the Jock-strap style as it means easier access to me to stimulate myself (or have someone do it for me). Also the security of the straps around my upper thighs mean I feel the dildo is anchored more firmly to my body - but that could be just my belief!
The harness arrived in discreet packaging and the difference between this and our previous leather/leatherette harness was apparent straight off the bat. The quality of the leather is something that Aslan Leather prides itself in - and you can see why. The leather is supple and doesn’t need “breaking in” like some firmer leather can do. The buckle mechanisms were like butter, aided by the flexibility of the leather.
Because the harness is adjustable (and there are different sizes you can purchase), we bought the Small which fits up to a 44 inch hip - the other option is the Large that accommodates up to a 56 inch which translates to approximately a UK size 28. The fit of the harness met with our expectations as we could tighten or loosen it as needed. We also bought the “Driver Pad” which is a triangular piece of padding you can clip between the body and the harness to protect the pubic bones from the bruising I mentioned earlier.
One of the really lovely features of this harness is that it comes with a rubber O-Ring for you to use but you can swap this out for a different one if it doesn’t fit the toys of your choosing. I’ve seen a few comments online that people prefer a metal O-ring for harnesses but that’s nothing that has ever been a consideration for me. I’ve always used plastic O-rings and never had complaints about them.
Honestly, when we want to use a leather harness, the Aslan one is the only choice for us - the other ones we own have never been used since we picked this up. The design is beautiful - the leather really is a lovely cherry shade which I appreciate in a world where most other harness manufacturers stick to standard black. Obviously kinky people do love black as an outfit choice - but I am a colour queen, so having variety is indeed the spice of life for me. Imagine my joy when I went directly onto the Aslan Leather website to see all the colour varieties stocked plus, as you would imagine, a much wider variety of products and styles than stocked on the stores of other online retailers.
Any negatives?
One of my ongoing issues with harnesses (and this is not limited to Aslan, but definitely wasn’t as noticeable with the Aslan harness) is needing to adjust them sometimes. As I mentioned in my OffTheTongue review, even when the harness is adjusted perfectly at the start of a scene - I find that if I work up a sweat, the harness understandably moves on my skin. It’s not normally a problem, but it can create a bit of a body/dildo disconnect when you’re getting down to business.
The other minor point I have with leather harnesses is actually getting into them during a kink scene. This is probably more down to planning on my part, which I fully accept, but if I’m moving into some strap-on play and haven’t already put my harness on - it can break the illusion of Full On Domme Realness when I get my heel caught in a strap or it takes a few minutes out a charged scene whilst I get buckled in. Entirely minor - and you can absolutely turn this to your advantage; making your partner kneel before you to kiss up your legs, help you into the harness and then lick over the leather until they get to the dildo you’ve chosen….well, I’ll leave that thought there for you to roll over in your clever little minds. But as you can imagine, any unforeseen hiccup can turn into its own moment of sexy fun.
The Aslan leathers do run a little more expensive than other harnesses than you can buy - but honestly, you are paying for the expertise and quality that has gone into the construction and materials. On the popular UK based sex toy website we purchased it from, the harness is currently £67.99 but the positive reviews on that site - and in this post - should reassure you that if you decide to pick one of these up, it would be money well spent. We’ve owned the harness for at least 18 months and there are no cracks in the leather nor any obvious degradation of the harness. Whilst leather harnesses may currently be my second choice to lingerie style harnesses, this is by far and away my favourite leather harness.
If you’re looking for a leather harness, the House of Denial can confidently recommend Aslan Leather for any and all strap-on shenanigans you may find yourself in.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Mistress K
Mistress K (she/her) is a queer kinky woman and in a long-term chastity-led relationship with Slave D, the other half of the dynamic duo who run House of Denial.
Thoughtfully dedicated to consent-led BDSM practices and interactions, Mistress K supports our community via our customer service channels (does that make her a service top domme?) by engaging with anyone interested, enthusiastic or curious about chastity.
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